You’re invited to a party…..R.S.V.P ? How can partying help you overcome Self-Doubt?

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If you allow it, the mind will chat shit from morning till night!

P.S…it lies too!!

There are ways to over-come self-doubt and you can do this by hosting a special kind of party.....

Caught in your head?

At times we all get caught in our heads, right? Trying to figure out perceived problems and jump the next set of hurdles. Oftentimes there are opposing thoughts and opinions, like characters in a play. Each character attempting to force its way to the front of the stage, improvising as she goes, in a bid to steal the spot-light, dreaming of breaking through and once more, igniting some momentum. You see, these characters are often well intentioned, they don’t really mean to create chaotic opposition but can help you over-come self-doubt by clearing the chatter if you give them a chance!

Meanwhile, you sit with your head in your hands, having given-up on ever re-establishing any semblance of order! Another stamp on the Merry-go-Round loyalty cards, stacking up reward point to purchase, yet a few more bags, of self-created stagnant madness.

We can focus on 'improving', we can focus on projecting, we can focus inward, outward, upward or downward, undertake all manner of practices and therapies to get ourselves straight- these may include wine therapy, shopping therapy, hypnotherapy or if we're really fortunate we will happen across the newest of all New Therapies, that advertises itself to realign the soul and raise your vibration to highest known dimension in just 90 minutes!

Inner opposition - fighting with yourself...

Marshaling this inner opposition can be exhausting, dis-empowering and on the worst days paralysing. It takes great amounts of energy, energy that we need to pursue our goals, energy that we need to live our present ‘moment by moment’ lives and there are no short cuts…

There is a better way…. What if you just stopped? (Humour me…)

Ya know, just got off, ditch the loyalty card, grab a cuppa and took a big sit down?

During this tea-sipping moment figure out how many characters are living in your head. How many aspects of you are vying for the spot-light? Is there a Good Girl who just wants to do things well? Where's the a Wild Woman who feels restrained? Is there a Lazy Lizard who just can’t be arsed? Or, my favourite, a Hedonistic Helper who just wants to fuck it all off and go on another adventure?

What are all these apposing characters trying to tell you? Which ones make you smile? Which ones make you feel guilty? Which ones are ‘socially unacceptable’?

Society tells us that Love is acceptable, and Anger is not, that honesty is honourable and lying is cowardly. So, are these parts of ourselves okay? Or not? Fact is, irrespective of societies opinion, we have them whether we or they like it or not. These characters are going no-where, they are part of you!

We are a mixture of all things, some nice, some not so, some socially acceptable, some not so, some parts strong and other parts not so.... So, if they’re staying, how could they actually help you? We can start by befriending each and every one of them.

Picture this....

You are hosting a party.... a little bit exciting, a little bit nerve racking.... you invite all of your characters, .... yep even the Social Hand-grenade and her Total Bitch of friend....

EVERYONE IS ON LIST, EVERYONE IS INVITED....those who you choose not to invite will crash it anyway!

Your job as the host is to work the gathering....to host the most legendary party of all time......to offer each character the same courtesy, greet, kiss, welcome and embrace them all.... It's a lot of work, they'll be times when you wonder if inviting all these apposing aspects was such a good idea...you may feel drained and overwhelmed but you may also have the time of your life.

Maybe, just maybe, all these perceivably disparate characters will find their place.... Wild and Good Girl may be in the garden burning the Autumn leaves, Good likes tidying and Wild likes Fire! Warrior and Damsel may be on the stairs deciding how they will make it down to the bottom together. Efficiency may be getting ahead with washing all the glasses while Lazy watches, chats and keeps her company, offering advice on time saving techniques.  Perhaps the Bad Girl now mingles confidently ensuring everyone's security and the Thief learns about giving from Compassion and his friend Generosity.... who knows????

But, whatever transpires during this rich process.... the experience is yours, you are the awesome host.... you may end the night with slightly messy hair, wondering who ate all your lippy then slip into bed with a warm soothing contentment that you did it!

The following morning if you're really lucky your Good Friends and Ever-faithful Lover will help you clean up the aftermath, drink tea, recycle bottles, open all the windows and doors and allow the fresh air to breeze through...
Then together, recount the highs, funny awkward moment, times when you 'lost it'....and before you know it your planning the next event....feeling confident that you did it!

Perhaps this view is madness perhaps not...who knows? It helps me, maybe it'll help you?
Journeying inward to meet with these characters, offering love and understanding, forming relationships and giving them each a time to party in the spotlight can bring about lasting peace. If you’d like a little help with this stuff let’s start a conversation here.

Over the years I have found effective ways to deal with the internal chaos. I now share these in the form of Spiritual Mentoring. It is possible to over-come Self-doubt, learn to listen attentively to your Intuition, release anxiety and become more empowered to guide your own life. If you'd like to book free initial consultation to see how it could work for you get in touch.

Big loves

C x

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Should, woulda, coulda……are you 100% committed?

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Years ago, having a spiritual interest, I set an intention that, 'This time I'm doing 'IT!' not knowing what 'IT' was....I would not undertake another incarnation, get to the end and think, 'Shit! shoulda, woulda, coulda'....I was aware of previous incarnations where, things were cut short!....not this time!!! I was 100% committed!

The motivation behind this?

I'd reached my early twenties and to be honest, I'd already had enough of being on this planet. I knew enough however, that if I were to jump ship, I be spun round on the wheel of Karma and promptly spat back in! I resigned to the fact that I'd chosen to come here and in order to survive it I had to find and live my purpose.

Some may think this brave, some, stupid, but hey, that was the message that I sent out. "I'm here, I'm committed, please show me what I'm supposed to be doing here this time around".

I had a couple of 'no thank yous'....I would not lose my children, I would not go to jail and I would not become consume by an addiction......funny though, I've come very close on a couple of the 'no thank yous'... one more thing.....I never wanted to be an 'if only' person, sitting on a sofa all middle-aged, thinking the guy next to me is a dick, watching some shitty soap thinking, if only.......!!! There had to be adventure.....

The unknown 'it', the purpose this life-time turned out to be the Shamanic Way.....How? WTF? Really? you're joking right? ...eye rolling, despair and or laughter, however it turned out that adventure was included!

Social Expectations

Committing to my purpose was all well and good......a shock came for me when I met people and they asked the standard question, "What is it that you do?".

This, "What do you do?" helps the person to establish a few things.

One 'where you fit' within consensual reality.

Two, where you are subsequently categorised in their own 'roller deck' of life.

When the questioner is presented with '"I'm a shaman" their heads often tilt to one side, social-worker fashion, (fruitlessly flicking through the internal roller-deck), attempting, unsuccessfully to hide their confusion  ...mentioning terms like 'Witch Doctor', Native Americans and a documentary they may have watched on Discovery Chanel, and then it comes....."But, what actually is it that you do?"

I've taken to stating the following....It's somewhere between counselor, teacher and priest. That tends to satisfy most. Occasionally there are those who genuinely would like to know more.

So, for those who would like to know more, here goes....

Traditionally the Shaman would be the spiritual guide for the village and it's tribe....from birth, everything that happens in between, to death and beyond.  These days our networks are often global, those in our 'village' are varied and dispersed...our tribes look very different to how they once did.  The role of the Shaman however is much the same....Births, Deaths and everything in between.

The ability to commune with the unseen brings a little something to most situations, working with nature is a free resource available to all and the combination of the two is just magic.

Many who work shamanically are guided or choose to specialise in specific areas.....some choose to pass on the knowledge in the form of training others, some are drawn to the darker end of human existence and have an aptitude for working with the shadow, others work with delicious rich plant medicines, others walk the dying over to the next world, and some welcome souls back in, some work with the land alone lifting patterns of times past, some work with those who are trapped between the worlds, many simply 'be', finding themselves always in the right place at the right time. Many however, do it all.

I find this way of life to be the most diverse, challenging, rewarding, perpetually eye-opening learning cycle, that I have ever had the regret and privilege to walk into. This way of being has changed my life from the core out and that of others too.

Purpose 

It can be odd to find that your purpose has no 'roller-deck' section but these days I kinda like it... our purpose is exactly that, ours....it isn't for anyone else to approve of, undertake or understand. We each have a unique set of gifts and talents and our own special way of using them.....let us not be limited by other peoples or even our own ideas of what life 'shoulda, woulda, coulda' be/been like'.....for me true happiness came from being myself, following my own inner voice, doing what feels right contrary to popular opinion, speak my truth and doing the work that I'm on this planet to do. This is the true path of freedom.....paved with many commitments.

Big loves

C x